tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post3642602092055395634..comments2015-04-25T23:43:35.752+01:00Comments on Letter to Ray: Dear Ray,Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-81019343910981062412008-04-28T07:46:00.000+01:002008-04-28T07:46:00.000+01:00Oh wow. I'm just so moved by your letter. It's tak...Oh wow. I'm just so moved by your letter. It's taken me twenty something years to realise that same thing, that it is not my shame, it belongs to the man (my father) who raped me. <BR/>Thank you for putting this out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-8645421521336613972007-12-09T06:36:00.000+00:002007-12-09T06:36:00.000+00:00I didn't include a return address with the hard-co...I didn't include a return address with the hard-copy of the letter. I suppose he could comment here, but I don't believe he's likely to do that. He's a coward. <BR/><BR/>One of the things I considered doing was asking people to print out and mail him a copy of the letter. I imagined a deluge of letters arriving from far and wide at his place of business, and every one of them the same.28 years laterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07405858779228918922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-16364966229042598752007-12-09T06:17:00.000+00:002007-12-09T06:17:00.000+00:00Amazing. More power to you! Did you ever hear anyt...Amazing. More power to you! Did you ever hear anything back from Ray?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-2830341323279971732007-11-20T04:52:00.000+00:002007-11-20T04:52:00.000+00:00It does. It used to feel more like something I did...It does. It used to feel more like something I did. Now it feels like something that was done to me. If it happened today I would know how to handle it, but I've forgiven myself for not handling it differently then. It has helped a great deal to acknowledge that I was indeed only fifteen years old. It really doesn't belong to me anymore, and that's a good thing.28 years laterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07405858779228918922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-73141376867848534022007-11-20T04:23:00.000+00:002007-11-20T04:23:00.000+00:00Does it get easier?Does it get easier?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-87921953764695991672007-11-15T01:02:00.000+00:002007-11-15T01:02:00.000+00:00I would, and I'd post his website with his busines...I would, and I'd post his website with his business address on it, too, but I'm worried about legal repercussions. I've heard plenty of stories about women being sued for libel when they accuse their rapist outside of the justice system.<BR/><BR/>I did mail him the letter in hard copy. I considered doing some other stuff, but I want to get beyond it, too. <BR/><BR/>I do still think about Andrea, though.28 years laterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07405858779228918922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-66587585655954039002007-11-15T00:59:00.000+00:002007-11-15T00:59:00.000+00:00This is amazing. Would you consider putting in Ray...This is amazing. <BR/><BR/>Would you consider putting in Ray's last name, too? <BR/><BR/>Though to protect Andrea, her name would be changed, if you did ...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-468260232175937192007-11-04T19:40:00.000+00:002007-11-04T19:40:00.000+00:00I am very, very impressed with your willingness to...I am very, very impressed with your willingness to confront this, all these years later, and to place ownership where it belongs. The most courageous people are the ones who suffered in private, in silence, and then survived anyway, not allowing the caustic, forbidden nature of their trauma to seduce them into self-destruction.<BR/><BR/>I'm so glad you posted this here. I hope people who've been similarly wounded come across it, and it can provide them with some inspiration and courage, to reject ownership of their wounding. Best wishes, 28YL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-26520345457967659412007-11-04T02:15:00.000+00:002007-11-04T02:15:00.000+00:00Powerful piece. Much love from a stranger.Powerful piece. Much love from a stranger.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-30101984063269554392007-11-04T02:14:00.000+00:002007-11-04T02:14:00.000+00:00What an incredible piece. It is his now.What an incredible piece. It is his now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-16416752440407976582007-11-02T16:33:00.000+00:002007-11-02T16:33:00.000+00:00Your letter is so powerful, and I am thankful that...Your letter is so powerful, and I am thankful that you have shared it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-4080699762801786682007-09-27T02:56:00.000+01:002007-09-27T02:56:00.000+01:00Wow. You're an inspiration to all survivors. Tha...Wow. You're an inspiration to all survivors. Thank you for sharing that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-32144366525215792472007-09-26T03:13:00.000+01:002007-09-26T03:13:00.000+01:00Thank-you (all) for your comments, here and elsewh...Thank-you (all) for your comments, here and elsewhere.<BR/><BR/>If you made a comment with your blogger account, I have reposted it anonymously. I don't want anyone to be able to follow you back to your blog and find me there somewhere. I'm sure you understand.28 years laterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07405858779228918922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-5261901239172370152007-09-25T23:03:00.000+01:002007-09-25T23:03:00.000+01:00Much love to you, 28 Years Later.Much love to you, 28 Years Later.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-35054762391283543342007-09-21T18:26:00.000+01:002007-09-21T18:26:00.000+01:00I totally understand. You are not alone. There are...I totally understand. You are not alone. There are way, way too many Rays out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-21359189835098063972007-09-21T06:27:00.001+01:002007-09-21T06:27:00.001+01:00Ray is a waste of good breathing air.Ray is a waste of good breathing air.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665900462441238887.post-15719545194048951502007-09-21T06:27:00.000+01:002007-09-21T06:27:00.000+01:00Thank you for sharing this. What an incredibly pow...Thank you for sharing this. What an incredibly powerful letter. And you are an incredibly powerful woman. ((((HUGS)))))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com